Coping with Infertility During the Holidays

The holiday season brings heightened emotions for almost everyone, but those suffering from infertility might feel more affected by these emotions than the average last-minute shopper. Whether it’s Thanksgiving, Christmas, or New Year’s Eve, these holidays all have one thing in common; they are heavily focused on the concept of family time.

The holiday season presents a longer stretch of time where everything from store decor and advertisements, to TV shows and movies, and even conversation are centered around children, gifts, and spending time with those you love. For those having trouble conceiving, this can be a particularly tough time because of the constant reminder of their infertility. There’s no buying presents for their own children, no cute family photos, and the usual questions from family and friends on why they do not have kids yet. It can be draining and stressful and have a negative impact on one’s mental health.

Helpful Tips for Coping with Infertility:

Because of this, we have put together our top tips for coping with infertility during the holidays. Let’s see what they are:

1. Be Selfish

   There is no shame in planning your holiday in ways that suit you and your spouse/partner best. For example, if it feels too painful to visit a relative’s annual get-together because you know someone just had a child, has many children, or will inquire about why you don’t have kids yet, say no to attending.

2. Treat Yourself

   Treat yourselves to a special event or gift that provides you with an extra source of happiness. This may be a play, a nicer dinner, a vacation, or a shopping spree. There are various ways to practice self-care by prioritizing your and your partner’s wants and needs.

3. Don’t feel obligated

   Don’t feel obligated to visit family, friends, or neighbors especially if they have not been informed that you are struggling to conceive. In a more emotional state, it is common to react in an overly sensitive way, then feel guilty about it.

4. Listen to your comfort levels

   If visiting with family, friends, and neighbors is supportive, go and enjoy your time. But if at any point the visit becomes difficult, remember you can leave at any time.

5. Stick to your health goals

   People tend to indulge during the holidays which can set back your current fertility progress. Remember to eat whole meals, get the recommended hours of sleep, and minimize stress by relaxing with a holiday film or a quiet walk.

6. Find Support

   Participate in support groups! Online or in-person options are available in all forums and allow you to speak about concerns among people who understand your current situation.

By following these self-care tips for coping with infertility during the holidays, you can continue or resume treatment on a positive note and actually enjoy your time with family and friends!

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